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I have realized I am inadequate at using my words to express my ideas and thoughts. Sure, I can write, but when it comes to actually saying things out loud, I feel very subpar. I cannot ever think of the correct word at the correct moment, nor can I come up with rebuttals to arguments made against my beliefs and aspirations for life. I suppose the best way to overcome that weakness would be to practice more by arguing with more people about more things, but I always feel a sense of personal attack from the other person when they share their opinions, and that makes me even less confident. And if I really get into arguments, I begin to utterly dislike the person for pointing out my flaws. Disliking people is not a habit I want to make, so I try not to get into arguments. And so my sad circle goes on...